WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS

FRIENDSHIP

It was during a phone conversation with a person who I 'd known for over 30 years that I considered to be "a  friend" during a debate we were having concerning a mutual friend, when he blurted out "Shelle I'm not your friend!!!  Granted... it had been awhile since we had talked or even seen one another but it was just me who over the years assumed that since we'd shared lots of secrets;early on had one chance encounter with sex, but the relationship remained platonic. Which led me to assume all these years it was safe to refer to him as "my friend."  It hurt me so bad that in the moment,  I just hung up the phone on him. Blocked him on social media, and deleted his number from my contacts.  To some that might seem extreme, but for me it was a shock!  How did I misjudge who I thought was friend, he wasn't an enemy I knew too much about his life to call him an acquaintance; or Was I just that lame? 

MERRIAM-WEBSTER UNABRIDGED

Definition of friend1a: one attached to another by affection or esteemShe's my best friend.b: ACQUAINTANCE2a: one that is not hostileIs he a friend or an enemy?b: one that is of the same nation, party, or groupshowbiz friends3: one that favors or promotes something (such as a charity)this trend has alarmed friends of the liberal arts— Raymond WaltersThe friends of the library will host a fund-raiser.4: a favored companion5capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war
— called also Quaker

 What's the difference between friends and acquaintances?

People often distinguish between an acquaintance and a friend, holding that the former should be used primarily to refer to someone with whom one is not especially close. Many of the earliest uses of acquaintance were in fact in reference to a person with whom one was very close, but the word is now generally reserved for those who are known only slightly.

Acquaintance is often found paired with nodding. Although nodding acquaintance sounds like it describes a person who is known just enough to nod at, it tends to be used instead to refer to a thing or field with which one has a small amount of knowledge or familiarity (and this is the meaning that the phrase has had since its introduction to the language in the early 19th century).

It  made me re-examine many of the folks in my circle of love maybe, my feelings were hurt because it was a hidden truth about me GOD was about to reveal. I remember another friend who told me many years ago that I looked at the world through rose colored glasses, chasing rainbows. That was in 1987, being young and fine I laughed at that notion because I always prided myself as being on top of everything and very well read on all subjects; topics, and all the latest fashions. It must be some truth to the saying "Ignorance is bliss," so I been told, but my firsthand knowledge is even one better.

Years, passed away since my friend spoke those words and that friend had long died too, so I never had the opportunity to tell them how right they were about my false perspective on life in general.  It took some years for me see clearer after being betrayed by both male and female friends, used, and verbally & emotionally abused with intimate friends to snap out of it and remove those rose colored lenses while going through the storms of life. I realized that  there was not just one individual but many who had watched me go through that journey, not many who stuck by me during those times. 

Long before the internet, social media networks, and contacts were a thing I use to surround myself with lots and lots of people I called them "friends" throwing wild birthday bashes at the club, cook outs spending lots of money on me and my female posse. We'd be glammed up and turn those parties out. Traveling. During those days, money was never an issue needless to say friends were plentiful with a few to spare, but when I got into trouble financially and had to go to my grandmother for counsel and support she asked me "where are all those friends at now?"  Good question, that I had no prepared answer.  Of course that's when she gave me the best advice ever to this day I still rely heavily on her words people will come and go but the one person, place or thing that's always consistence is GOD!

Grandma said simply..."TRUST GOD"...

John 15:12-15

12 This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. 13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. 14 Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. 15 Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.

May God continue to bless you, #SHOWSOMELOVE
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OH LORD PLEASE DON'T LET ME BE MISUNDERSTOOD

MISUNDERSTOOD

We are born and come into the world innocent naked hoping we get a great set of parents carnal being dealt a hand only to be met with a life uniquely designed for us aligned with a bigger plan in mind.

Momma seemed to understand set me on the right path during adolescence was a cakewalk, puberty I woke up misunderstood. Being the only girl, struggling to fit in outside their world.

So I grow, learning to communicate one word, then a thought, until I can stand alone with adulthood issues to problem solve without Mommas help.

Misunderstood

Given the values of a Queen to run any “Kingdome”, coached by many mentors who taught the laws of the sacred Golden rules attended Sunday school; participated in Tom Thumb weddings being prepared to become a wife to fear and love the Lord seeing me as “The Bride” walking hand hand down the aisle. Disillusioned, I misunderstood the facts of life.

Misunderstood..

Barbe & Ken dolls, Doo Wop songs, Temptations, Ojays, Luther, and the like, Main Ingredient kept me Spinning around with high expectations compromised more than once or twice.

Surviving humiliations

With my head held high, seeking my guidance headed east pass Jupiter for the only one who truly does get me, truly loves me exactly as I am.

 He understands.

Before I began to compose this, suddenly, in my solitude I hear Smokey Norvel ministering from the radio then at once to my inner voice leaping inside to the song, “I Understand,”  it seemed appropriate cause you can’t choose your family, not even your lifetime partner or that handful of friends; maybe?

Who may never get who you really are that sometimes take you for granted as you evolve onward towards a magnificient journey that God has laid out just for you to follow no explanation given we struggle for answers rarely do we understand. We end up growing in truth and love as we learn how to serve our fellow Man in one-way shape or form. Whether life feels routine somewhat self righteous with little or no major ups and downs. Give him Honour, and honour those who teach you,

Just remember GOD Understands, in his word he Proclaims, I AM God the only one who changes not, day in and day out. I call on and rely on Him Jehovah Jireh my Provider, Jehovah Nissi my banner, and El Shaddai Almighty GOD, the strength giver..

Who never sleeps nor slumbers

For I can’t satisfy my own soul, my plight is solo some days I don’t fathom why God moves in his ways I end the day in prayer , getting through the mine fields each day achieving the Victory seems astounding“Thank You Lord Yeah tho I walk through the valley of the Shadow of death”! At times being persecuted by the world when it doesn’t matter if I’m minding my own business or just standing firm when controversy twists and distorts the direction of life that causes fingers to point, loud whispers, or even laughs life maybe hard but it's fair!

My mind remembering that what don’t kill you sometimes criticism hard as it seem can make you strong. Don’t be like Lot’s wife it symbol, Old Testament “she turned into a pilar of salt, New Testament describes it as being sifted as wheat”

Don't Look Back!

When people leave you or forsake you let them go. In the book, Acts of Faith remember what Iyanla proclaimed that your purpose, my purpose and other people’s purpose are but for, “A reason, a season, or a lifetime.

Walk on, through the wind, walk on thru the rain; Cry out to Him to please take my hand.

In time all things do pass away. And forgive yourself for letting go don’t hold on because moving forward is part of God’s bigger plan. He knows the prequel to the sequel better than you or I even the part about how much you are uniquely a blessing to others and often…

"Never Look Back" 
Live life on life terms with little or no regrets

Oh GOD Please don't let me be

Misunderstood!

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THE MISFITS

THE MISFITS

I recall an old Movie called “The Misfits” starring Clark Gable, Marilyn Monroe, Eli Wallache, and Montgomery Cliff. Now many people under the age of 45 might not know some of those famous actors. But, truly they were the Misfit’s in Hollywood land w/the exception of Eli he played a Mexican back during those days. Montgomery Cliff, Marilyn Monroe, and Clark Gable died shortly after making that movie Clark Gable died right after it wrapped.

 I need your attention. The reason I publish blogs is give you another perspective - plant a seed or inspire, (not to educate, but advocate) to broaden your perspective as viewed through another lens.

 These humans who endured much humiliation during a brief period of life when GOD is prepping for His service in training. 

Isn't it a mystery how He’ll take a wretch like Apostle Paul strip away all the material things and vain glory that accompanies false pride.We are tempted in our flesh with our limited sight we see our wants as needs accumulating an abundance of material wealth, status quo acceptance,  power, and for some celebrity or fame. Until finally one day when GOD gets ready to show Himself to you things begin to change beyond your control.

Paul told the same story the same way (he was a murderer of Christians followers of Jesus), he wrote most of the New Testament. GOD used Him to save the gentiles just had this one testimony he repeated each time...

"I was on the road to Damascus, all of sudden I heard a voice calling my name Saul, why does thou persecute me a bright light blinded me, and I fell of my beast" 

For every level there's a new Devil. All of sudden before you know it once again GOD has raised you up from the ashes to prove to the World...

to those who live in doubt, pain, and confusion the Gospels were to provide a blueprint-proof a living testimony which helps us all to understand that we all must submit and be willing to come "Under GODs Authority"  

 *Misfits exist as living proof a Witness of how GOD will use ordinary people to bring about extrodinary things in His WORLD, create a movement inorder to bringh forth HIS Purpose to Glorify Him he said...

"I AM" that I AM" 

Abraham

Issac

Jacob

Moses

David

King Solomon

*Jesus ~ Began His ministry age 30 only lived in the flesh for 33 yrs. during his life - In the Order of *Melchizedek Priesthood, which is “after the Order of the Son of God” (D&C 107:3), is the greater of these. 

*He Lives!

• Emmit Till - from Chicago on Summer Vacation falsely accused by hateful White Men and his wife, her husband,his brother Tortured and killed in Money Mississippi died violently at age -14

• · Medgar Evers ~ Voting & Civil Rights Activist, Fatally shot died violently in his driveway in front of his wife and kids At home assassinated - age 38

• · Malcolm X ~ Prophet, Minister of Islam, Black leader Fatally shot before his wife and children Publicly assassinated- age 40

• · MLK, Jr. ~ Prophet, Baptist Minister, Black leader Mortally shot in the head Publicly assassinated - age 39

• · M Ghandi~Activist,died violently for his beliefs, power was assassinated - age 79

• · JFKennedy ~ Youngest President, Mortally shot in the head beside his wife Publicly assassinated - age 46

• · RFKennedy~ US Senator, Mortally   shot in the head in a Hotel kitchen in front of his wife Publicly assassinated - age 43

*Were scorned, ridiculed, crucified, jailed, violently murdered their accuser's called them vicous names like Communist, treasonous, traitors, rebel rouser's, False Prophet's, they even accused them of being the Devil and a threats to society.  All because of held beliefs, Faith, and hope for a better world.

Still  recognized to this day as Legends, Heros - discussed, analyzed, or written about

 "Raised UP"

Hundreds of gifted Artists,Musical Legends & Icons

Sam Cooke
James Brown
Aretha Franklin
Mahalia Jackson
Prince
Maurice White
Michael Jackson
Elvis
John Lennon
Muhammad Ali
the lists goes on and on... it has been passed down to the Hip Hop Generation

ALL were called to serve a higher purpose by GOD than they had planned for themselves.  None of them with the exception of Jesus of Nazareth began life's journey knowing how life would end.

Let's imagine if you took a trip "Back To the Future, we time traveled back to AD landed in the village where Jesus grew up ancient Israel and told them that Jesus of Nazareth is still larger than life in the 21st century some 2000+ years.  They would be laughing out loud while they hung you on a cross!

Point is, these are clear examples of historical figures some who were Leaders among Men. Publicy ridiculed for their STAND would lose their lives;but ironically, while they lived above ground were judged by the public ridiculed and scorned. 

Misfits spend a degree of their time living around disgruntled societies people who hated them wishing death upon them, lived with daily threats from lowest to highest officials followed them, monitoring, and taping private conversations or having intimate sex just to belittle their character's defamation or a frame for illicit behavior to discourage people from believing  in them or respecting their positions GOD assigned to them... I could dive into this more but this is just a blog not a novel.

Sometimes we don’t realize what our purpose is during our life span.  Most individuals value or worth isn't appreciated fully by others until after they've past away out of this world.  Then we grieve but all realize what a blessing it was to know them or benefit from their contributions some that have influenced future development of this world bringing people in unity with music, songs, and influence that changed lives opening doors that were once closed to certain people.  

"Next!"

 Martin Luther King, Jr., would not believe his statue is triangulated in Granite as a Monument between Washington, Jefferson and Lincoln Memorials' in the Nations Capital. Malcolm X would be overwhelmed by the many “people” no mater creeds, colors that revere and listen to his speeches which are still popular around the entire world because its a universal message for all races and cultures to adopt the philosophy concerning being treated like a human being, on this earth with self dignity and equality. 

Other celebrities who died tragically like Michael Jackson, Prince, Marilyn Monroe, Elvis Presley,  Billie Holiday, and Sammy Davis Jr.,  are all considered to be "Misfits " they didn’t quite fit into society’s idea of how to behave.  Who to love and  always stepped way outside the box I mean colored way outside the lines. 

 Ignited so much love and passion in people they're now idolized in death their name or branding quadrupled.  These great entertainers established a brand that still makes people around the world react just listening or even watching a hologram  perform. Globally loved not just by America but actually loved more around the world.  What they all share in common are tabloid scandals, drugs, institutions, and tragic death.  Misfits die under humiliating circumstances too many to mention because they gave so much of themselves and GOD plucked them out of the world to rest.  Job well done they shall seek a final reward and that's "Eternal life." my Soul.... 

So while GOD is Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent God IS watching all of us as impossible or  awkward that might seem to you.

My words of expression come from my point of view only. Through my life lens for whatever purpose I bring to this earth is not for my own vain glory but to Edify, Glorify and acknowledge GOD. 

 Spirituality is felt inspired, and freely given in measure to each human being. 

The words spilling on the pages are a result of GOD's Spirit that lives inside of me, suddenly as I’m being inspired to compose these words, the background music in my head hears Will Downing so sweetly singing a ballad  called “No Love Intended” just wanted people that will take the time to read this rambling blog to understand  my heart is sincere.

Misfits are the sort of people who leave a mark on society not always getting recognized for the gifts they bring.  I believe GOD is always present no HE hasn’t left the building yet. 

 I don’t seem to fit in anybodies cliques, on social media when I began to engage online sharing my opinions, objections using social media networking it was revealed to not be afraid to confront some dire issues facing our World, 

 "My Race...."

  "The Human Race"

As a Woman specially designed by GOD… thrills me that what makes me whole.Validated is a wholesome kind of joy.

Unexplainable but knowing just that; seeds were planted inside of me GOD used many extrodinary people teaching me many, many hard lessons throughout my journey, day by day..lots of tears, fears, threats, experienced living homelessness, longsuffering, and along the way GOD protected me with many unexpected results. I'm still here, walking, living out my purpose. I learned how to forgive, let go, and love people inspite of myself.

I count it all JOY living single. I've come to understand having “that special Man” in my daily life GOD designed just for me, who'd cover me, prays with me the way GOD speaks of in His plan. 

I've had my share, trust and believe it wasn't the men who I encountered that failed me it was my inability to let go and allow GOD to bless me.  

He never meant for a Woman to work hard outside of her home she managed  her home her only assignment was always as Nurturer to the family. Building up the foundation making it possible for the family to thrive together, encouraging her Help Mate til death do us part.  

As Queen of her domain she's adored, cherished, and honored by her King (husband) for Life Partner, her Companion he protects with his life. She is trustworthy. Proverbs 31:11 says that “The heart of her husband trusts in her.” Someone so precious, a nurturer his wife! 

No one violated her honor showed her children were raised to exhibit much respect. Now it's called once upon a time "Fairy tales,"  I wanted that life and to become her raise my children at home have dinner on the table sit and pray and make love at night!  

God had other plans.

"To much is given, much is Required."

Instead of breaking down I always look up beyond the clouds and can smile through any circumstances just knowing “GOD's got this,” all I have to do each day is just show up study, pray , seek to be healthy and have a willingness to grow.  Do the homework with footwork.

  Allow Him to mold me into the person he wants me to become, that’s not an easy task, having such a rebellious spirit throughout my entire life. GOD has taught me how to be content in whatever state I’m in and have patience. 

Trusting GOD's timing has taught me to stay in my lane and know what he has provided for  my sister'her portion, and what he blesses me with is mine.  I learned not to covet have envy of other women - men based upon appearances.  We all have our own Cross to Bare.... Burdens we carry debts we have to pay. Outward appearances based on material things 99.999 percent of the time we're wrong about their plight in life.

I use to be intimidated early walk being a christian stained by my past I felt the decent church ladies might not understand or accept me or my past then  I discovered they had one too. Since that was revealed to me I've never been ashamed of who or what I am ever again. GOD gave me Purpose in life unique as my fingerprints.

That was life changing for me because once I submitted, GOD began to reveal more to me then once I released all of those selfish ways or be on borrowed time.

Why I blog the way I do it's simple, one day,  when I get older and fade away these pages will still exist here in cyberspace.  My children and grandchildren whom I"ve met and for the ones I might not ever meet will hopefully get a glimpse of my character or it'll be here to let somebody hurting just seeking an answer to a question~ know you are not alone or GOD made you unique going through changes in life is part of HIS plan to prepare you for duty to carryout His purpose for you while you exist in this World.  

There is always a tomorrow coming  from  another “Misfit’s point of view. Once you've completed your purpose serving GOD. He promotes us into Eternity to rest. Those we leave behind, our loved ones, friends, and acquaintences will have felt our mark on the world being remembered with love in  "Eternal Life."

 Feel good about yourself we all are still a work in progress with human frailties that’s why I know I'm not ready for prime time yet, still flawed with defects of charactrer I do use profanity  not just when I'm angry, often in jest too thats no not a slip it's my tongue. I'm still learning tact to control that too. Free Will!!!! is a Blessing and a Curse.

God sees through all our carnality because He's not carnal; Humans are!  We all have a purpose in life to fulfil that's what I was taught whatever you have a passion to do, perform that thing without dread or complaint. That's usually it!  (Thanks Bishop Jakes your ministry taught me how to live that.....)

Often times for most of us it comes without any thanks, or public reward.  In life you think you may deserve so much, but most successes are priceless. Let GOD use you in alright not to be in the public eye - spotlight... Don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong if have wealth because most Misfits enjoy life in the fast lane. They have access money, have openended credit some enjoy massive wealth during their whole life.  

Often imitated but never duplicated...They’ll never be another Martin, Malcom,  Medgar, JFK, RFK, Ghandi, Elvis Presley, Billie Holiday, Sammy Davis Jr, Prince, or Michael Jackson but you got alot of folks trying to inspired to emulate them.

Misfits are the people that you’ll never see duplicated no matter how many halograms others often imitator's may try! 

#StayFree

Peace & Love "Keep your head to the Sky"

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Isley Brothers - (Prelude) Harvest For The World

MEMORIES THE TEMPTATIONS

CRITICISM IS CRITICAL

ABOUT CRITICISM

"I feel when you defend yourself against criticism, it makes me think your just a little bit guilty"
quoted Suzie Orman @Morning Joe MSNBC 1/9/09

Don't play to your critic’s  just smile in spite of it ALL and know who’s really in control. We don't have to explain OURSELVES why we care, share, and love one another. Just serve GOD be available to live as an example and give truthful testimony about HIS GRACE & MERCY and how it's working in your life!  

There is no defense for the truth but a lie knows no boundaries.  Always on an endless road to living in self-destruction, or even death. Besides as prophesized most humans can't handle the truth because a lie is easier to believe.... Don't believe everything you hear, and half of what you see stop hating on each other take time out to be of service to somebody because your called blessed.


Be blessed in the LORD for HIS Mercy Endures forever!

Standing on the Promises of GOD.  Show some Love!

Living With Critcism

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