The Woman at the Well, with A Situation feat Bishop T.D. Jakes

A private matter; Woman to Woman on a whole new level.Whatever happened Barbara, this is Shirley…….. Women who creep OPP syndrome

Conversation With the Samaritan Woman

John 4:7-244:7 A Samaritan woman came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give me some water to drink.” 4:8 A Situation

4:13 Jesus replied, “Everyone who drinks some of this water will be thirsty again. 4:14 But whoever drinks some of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again, but the water that I will give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up to eternal life.” 4:15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” 4:16 He said to her, “Go call your husband and come back here.” 4:17 The woman replied, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “Right you are when you said, ‘I have no husband, 4:18 for you have had five husbands, and the man you are living with now is not your husband. This you said truthfully!”   A Situation....

4:21 Jesus said to her, “Believe me, woman, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. 4:22 You people worship what you do not know. We worship what we know, because salvation is from the Jews. 4:23 But a time is coming – and now is here – when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father seeks such people to be his worshipers. 4:24 God is spirit, and the people who worship him must worship in spirit and truth

Many real women have had at least one indiscretion where she didn’t want to fall for or become somebody’s mistress, which often always results in a broken heart on all sides, and yes the family does suffer through the crisis. Yet as I was growing up the black women in my community handled these matters so indiscreetly that you still spoke with respect to an, Aunties, best girlfriend or Ms. Gotchaman from across the street whose always having lots of different guys around.. my childhood memories.. Another time I can remember another sister taking a wine bottle wrapped in her man’s boxer shorts and throwing it through the mistress patio door shattering the glass and then slashing tires…. He moved out it was over and only a few us knew what had happened loved her through the pain and humiliation. The woman knew who did it but never could identify anything but the drawers..

I recall my mother demonstrating what kiss my ass meant using sign language to Ms. Gotchaman.. no words were ever spoken, so you mean from my childhood trauma of watching mother bend over pull her panties down and tell another woman kiss her ass she thought was sleeping with my father, which still brings me to tears in laughter at this very moment. She or I could have sued Ms. Gotchaman for $$$.. It would have paid for a nice college tuition at best.

No I’m not feeling that lawsuit the NBA player’s spouse is claiming against Gabrielle Union even if it does stink to all hell. Gabby was wrong but who are we to judge, he/she who is without sin please cast the first stone and let GOD be all of their judge, its painful but why draw more pain by making it a public shame.


Does anybody come out the winner, nope I don’t think so and the kids continue to be humiliated privately about a public scandal. Celebrities are human beings who also wake up with the same requirements except they have exposure to more tangible things.. Feelings and desires are usually human they suffer too. Chris Brown still struggling back from a very public private matter.

Where do we draw the line between what is for public consumption vs. private enlightenment; why do we enjoy consuming other folks misery; scripture points to the fact that we ought to pray when any of us suffers this level of public humiliation all parties need encouragement and for folks to stop acting like you never been a “tramp” once or flirted hard with somebody else’s man.


Personally, I’ve been on either side if you check out this chick flick “It’s Complicated that is the perfect analogy. A wife who becomes the ex-husband’s mistress; once scorned then karma allows her to experience hoe dum and she loves it! We’ve all shared a moment and if you’ve haven’t chances do go around. For some Agony&Ectasy that some painful growth betrayal, then forgiveness.

The experts in the law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught committing adultery. They made her stand in front of them 8:4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the very act of adultery. 8:5 In the law Moses commanded us to stone to death such women. What then do you say?” 8:6 (Now they were asking this in an attempt to trap him, so that they could bring charges against him.) Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger. 8:7 when they persisted in asking him, he stood up straight and replied, “Whoever among you is guiltless may be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8:8 then he bent over again and wrote on the ground.

8:9 Now when they heard this, they began to drift away one at a time, starting with the older ones, until Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. 8:10 Jesus stood up straight and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” 8:11 She replied, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you either. Go, and from now on do not sin any more.”

God Bless and Show some love for yourself be considerate of others

Peace


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EJI's New Lynching Report Documents an Era of Racial Terrorism | Equal Justice Initiative

Knowledge is Power

EJI's New Lynching Report Documents an Era of Racial Terrorism | Equal Justice Initiative  Disclaimer: I am not permitted to reprint the articcle but visit the EJI site for more information and current reports.

In December 2014 I posted an essay in support of #BLACKLIVESMATTER....... to protest the blatant denial in America how little value has been considered for the lives of Black Americans and the affects of the trauma, how it's evolved into bad policing.

This is the original Document as posted by EJI.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B2RtxTh9Jf3uX0d2NmhsUElWQTg/view?usp=sharing
If you really want to understand the History and scars which attributes to the black condition in America here's a great article. 

  It speaks to our history as Americans and the experience of both races and what was considered "socially acceptable" way of bringing justice from white race point of view, but it was terror and meant death to the black race utterly powerless in most cases this essay goes indepth to recall factual information and illustrations documenting this inhumane but legal practices here in our Nation.  Maybe this won't change hearts and minds but at least you can't say you didn't know how awful life could be for people of color.  

  To this date no person in power in these United States has ever apologized and offered assistance to the decendants of these people, many "African Americans" who I refer to as Black Americans have been taught to accept and live with many of the generational maladjustments suffered by many families even mine who struggled to identify in a society that loved to "HATE" them and saw them as less than a human being.  We've come a short distance but until we have real dialog such as this piece (just click on the title to the link above in red)  for a frank and open conversation "just the facts" without embelishment, I hold a hope for real brotherhood and healing before the end of the 21st Century.  

  My grandson is Black, Hispanic, Native American, and White.  I guess he's really an "ALL AMERICAN!!" 

That being said I refuse to be afraid anymore
 for him or my Black son whose mere existance to some in our country can be a reason to die......  It's time to heal scars are real.

So check out your mind read the article and you decide..

Show some empathy & be humble lets try that for a start.

http://empoweringspiritsfreeingurmind.blogspot.com/2014/12/our-freedom-in-review-american-justice.html

GOD Bless#Peace&Love

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The Valley of Dry Bones

"Son of man, can these bones live?"

 Ezekiel 37:1-9, 3:4-10 

1 The hand of the LORD was upon me, and he brought me out in the Spirit of the LORD and set me down in the middle of the valley; it was full of bones. 2 And he led me around among them, and behold, there were very many on the surface of the valley, and behold, they were very dry. 3 And he said to me, "Son of man, can these bones live?" And I answered, "O Lord GOD, you know." 4 Then he said to me, "Prophesy over these bones, and say to them, O dry bones, hear the word of the LORD. 5 Thus says the Lord GOD to these bones: Behold, I will cause breath to enter you, and you shall live.

9 Then he said to me, "Prophesy to the breath; prophesy, son of man, and say to the breath, Thus says the Lord GOD: Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe on these slain, that they may live." 10 So I prophesied as he commanded me, and the breath came into them, and they lived and stood on their feet, an exceedingly great army.

4 Then He said to me: "Son of man, go to the house of Israel and speak My words to them. 5 For you are not being sent to a people of unintelligible speech or difficult language but to the house of Israel. 6 [You are] not [being sent] to many peoples of unintelligible speech or difficult language, whose words you cannot understand. No doubt, if I sent you to them, they would listen to you. 7 But the house of Israel will not want to listen to you because they do not want to listen to Me. For the whole house of Israel is hardheaded and hardhearted. 8 Look, I have made your face as hard as their faces and your forehead as hard as their foreheads. 9 I have made your forehead like a diamond, harder than flint. Don't be afraid of them or discouraged by [the look on] their faces, even though they are a rebellious house."

10 Next He said to me: "Son of man, listen carefully to all My words that I speak to you and take [them] to heart.

TRANSISTION/ACCEPTANCE-SELF LOVE

 I went through my process of letting go of a bad relationship it hurt. Going through, growing through, and living on the other side was like shedding skin.

The reason why it hurt me was because of my commitment raised my tolerance level to pain. I did do the necessary footwork to plant a seed for growth inwardly. I cried about this and prayed and GOD revealed to me almost as an epiphany experience. That I truly did love this person with his defects and assets too, but if he wasn't willing to acknowledge that there exist a problem how could he become willing to change his ways.  I wasn't willing to come down to his level and he wasn't capable of meet me halfway.

Well, I had to change, my mind, my attitude towards him which evolved from resentment to forgiveness.I held onto the relationship even after he had left, hoping for an apology or closure waiting for his voice to say he's wrong... Wasn't growing it was lingering(wallowing inside my head);Ultimately, I would still be in a relationship. All by myself, with a ex-lover living rent free inside of my emotions, my mind I couldn't begin any new romance. Until I could Let Go of the former relationship completely to allow my heart, mind, and body to finally go back in sync. 

I stood up and trusted what GOD has purposed for me that I'm to be honored, adored, loved just as HE loves me and that I'm an exceptionally gifted Black Woman with much to offer.

Let GO Let GOD

 Finally, GOD allowed me to mature to a level of self acceptance to become willing myself to change and let HIM work on me.... I'm a Kings daughter who deserves the best GOD grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (other folks) and the courage to change the things that I can (me), and the WISDOM to know the difference.  Stop trying to get folks to come up to where you're at if you lack patience to allow them to grow. 

Don't let anyone with a personality disorder affect your life. They can cause harm.. Words do hurt and over time and can Mame....

Believe in yourself enough know your value despite what anyone says. I know most men often when they're angry of cornered love to refer to us Ladies as "ah you crazy" and use all sorts of superlatives to support such asscine behavior when the conversations get serious or when they can't respond rationally. 

For some males this is a defense mechanism what other best way to stop the dialog is by means of  offense "ATTACK, push the button" out comes the buzz words that tend to take you most of us off our square. Poof here comes "Crazy" we often play right into their hands... well Stand! Stand firm in all your convictions and don't let nobody bring you down...

 Read the article below for it's content. Love yourself enough to not disregard the material try to open your mind up to this.

Personality Disorders and Relationships

List of personality disorders defined in the DSM

The DSM-IV lists ten personality disorders, grouped into three clusters. The DSM also contains a category for behavioral patterns that do not match these ten disorders, but nevertheless exhibit characteristics of a personality disorder. This category is labeled Personality Disorder NOS (Not Otherwise Specified).

Cluster A (odd or eccentric disorders)

Paranoid personality disorder: characterized by irrational suspicions and mistrust of others
Schizoid personality disorder: lack of interest in social relationships, seeing no point in sharing time with others
Schizotypal personality disorder: also avoids social relationships, though out of a fear of people

Cluster B (dramatic, emotional, or erratic disorders)

Antisocial personality disorder: "pervasive disregard for the law and the rights of others."
Borderline personality disorder: extreme "black and white" thinking, instability in relationships, self-image, identity and behavior
Histrionic personality disorder: "pervasive attention-seeking behavior including inappropriate sexual seductiveness and shallow or exaggerated emotions"
Narcissistic personality disorder: "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy"

Cluster C (anxious or fearful disorders)

Avoidant personality disorder: social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and avoidance of social interaction
Dependent personality disorder: pervasive psychological dependence on other people.
Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (not the same as obsessive-compulsive disorder): characterized by rigid conformity to rules, moral codes, and excessive orderliness
History
The concept of personality disorders goes back to at least the ancient Greeks,[2] and even earlier to the ancient Egyptians, such as the Ebers papyrus.[3]

Various types of personality disorders were later described by medieval Arabic psychological thinkers,[4][5] and many more have been discovered in modern times.


Studies on clusters
A study of almost 600 male college students, averaging almost 30 years of age and who were not drawn from a clinical sample, examined the relationship between childhood experiences of sexual and physical abuse and presently reported personality disorder symptoms. Childhood abuse histories were found to be definitively associated with greater levels of symptomatology. Severity of abuse was found to be statistically significant, but clinically negligible, in symptomatology variance spread over Cluster A, B and C scales.[6]

Child abuse and neglect consistently evidence themselves as antecedent risks to the development of personality disorders in adulthood.[citation needed] In this particular study, efforts were taken to match retrospective reports of abuse with a clinical population that had demonstrated psychopathology from childhood to adulthood who were later found to have experienced abuse and neglect. The sexually abused group demonstrated the most consistently elevated patterns of psychopathology. Officially verified physical abuse showed an extremely strong role in the development of antisocial and impulsive behavior. On the other hand, cases of abuse of the neglectful type that created childhood pathology were found to be subject to partial remission in adulthood.[7]

In 2005, psychologists Belinda Board and Katarina Fritzon at the University of Surrey, UK, interviewed and gave personality tests to high-level British executives and compared their profiles with those of criminal psychiatric patients at Broadmoor Hospital in the UK. They found that three out of eleven personality disorders were actually more common in managers than in the disturbed criminals:

histrionic personality disorder: including superficial charm, insincerity, egocentricity and manipulation
narcissistic personality disorder: including grandiosity, self-focused lack of empathy for others, exploitativeness and independence.
obsessive-compulsive personality disorder: including perfectionism, excessive devotion to work, rigidity, stubbornness and dictatorial tendencies.
They described the business people as successful psychopaths and the criminals as unsuccessful psychopaths.

GOD Bless til next time

Pray for eternal Peace, Grace, and #SHOWSOMELOVE

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I GOT FLOWERS TODAY

"YOU TAKE MY HAND AND I'LL TAKE YOUR HAND BABY, TOGETHER WE'LL GET AWAY... THIS MUCH SADNESS IS TO MUCH SORROW, IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO STAY. SHA LA LA THE WEATHER SHE COULD DRAG ME OVER THE RAINBOW AND SEND ME AWAY"

"DOWN BY THE RIVER I SHOT MY BABY.... SHOT HER AWAY DOWN BY THE RIVER....."

THE LATE DRUMMER BUDDY MILES - 1970 (Song - Down by the River FROM THE ALBUM BUDDY MILES CHANGES

We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry cause he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral! Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.......If you are against domestic abuse, please pass this along to everyone, NOT just women.

submitted by: Shelle via - Lannie Hardy 2005

Domestic Violence is ugly, and it in no way does it demonstrate love or a kind of morbid affection for it's victim(s). Most of us either know of or have been touched by this vicious cycle. Growing up in a home where I witnessed first hand how ugly it can get on all levels. Now to add to the agony we have brothers on the DL (down low). It's time to open up the lines of communication - Can you stand the pain? 

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